How to be the agenda-setter in your own life?
With so many responsibilities, it can feel like your life isn’t in your own hands. From juggling work to paying bills, a lot is expected of you. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have power. In this article, we’ll highlight seven ways to help you become the agenda-setter in your own life:
1. Set clear goals
What to do? you want to? This is an important question that you need to answer sooner rather than later. After all, the only way to be the agenda-setter of your life is to know what you want out of life. What are your goals? ambitions? Where do you want to be in five years? Use this information to guide your decisions and set clear boundaries that will help you achieve your goals.
For example, let’s say one of your goals is to start your own business before you have kids. You want to take certain precautions, such as using birth control to lower your risk of an unplanned pregnancy. If you have an idea of how and when you want to start a family, you can map out a timeline for your business.
On the other hand, you may want to be a doctor in five years. That could mean you now spend more time studying than you do with friends. By setting clear goals, you can create a plan for your life that will keep you in control.
2. Learn to say ‘no’
One problem many of us have is that we are afraid to say ‘no’. We don’t want to disappoint our friends, colleagues or relatives, so we accept any request thrown at us. We say ‘yes’ to dinner plans and to working an extra shift, even when we’re exhausted and would rather not.
Constantly saying “yes” may make you feel like a good person, but it can make your life difficult. Instead of having time alone, your schedule will consist of doing things for other people. And while that’s okay every now and then, it’s crucial to have time for yourself.
3. Pay off debt
According to a 2020 study, consumer debt in the United States reached nearly $15 trillion dollars. It’s no secret that the average American struggles, or currently struggles, with debt. Owing money makes your life complicated and stressful. But avoiding debt can help you regain control.
It takes time to pay off debt, as well as a lot of discipline. A good place to start is by keeping track of your finances. Spend a few minutes reviewing your income and expenses. We recommend grouping your expenses into categories so you can see exactly where your money is going. Or rather, where it doesn’t work.
For example, let’s say more of your money goes to non-essentials (new clothes, takeaway, etc.) than paying off your debt. You probably want to make some changes so that you allocate money to what matters most.
4. Have a routine
Getting a grip on your life starts with your daily routine. You may not realize it, but having structure can help you take more control of your life. You don’t have to do anything drastic. Actually, you should start small.
For example, start by re-evaluating your sleep schedule. Instead of sleeping for five hours one day and 10 hours the next, try getting the same amount of rest each night. Keep in mind that this may mean going to bed a little earlier than usual and waking up to your first alarm.
If you have the time and interest, consider incorporating other things into your routine. You could walk a mile every day, make your bed before work, stretch for 20 minutes, etc. The more you enjoy your daily routine, the more likely you are to stick with it.
5. Save money
Some people see saving money as a luxury. The truth is that saving money is a necessity to help you take more control of your life. Putting money aside will help you be better prepared for a rainy day. If you end up getting sick and bombarded with medical bills, you have a way to pay those bills. If you want to spend money and treat yourself to a vacation, you have the money to do it.
A big part of life’s daily stress is money. And while saving money isn’t always easy, it is always possible. For example, putting aside just 1% of your monthly income doesn’t sound like much, but it adds up over time.
That said, if there’s ever an opportunity to save more money, grab it. Some people even take up a side job to earn a second income. They can babysit, drive for Uber or Lyft, or maybe even start their own business.
There are many things in life that you have no control over. That can feel overwhelming. But the truth is you have a lot in life can check. Instead of emphasizing when things don’t go as planned, focus on what you can control.
Cook yourself dinner, take a gym class, schedule a massage, or clean your house when things feel chaotic. While these tasks may seem small, they can help you feel more self-reliant and in control of your life.
You are constantly being pulled in different directions. Sometimes it doesn’t feel like your life is yours. Sounds familiar? It’s easy to feel like a spectator in your own life, but you’re not. You have the power to set your own agenda, and the above tips will show you how.